Indifference is not a hefty guy with a bloody ax in his hands and not a suicide bomber with an explosive on his belt, but a small gray man who sits in a corner and quietly reads the newspaper while the guy and the suicide bomber are operating. He sits and hopes that he won’t be noticed, he expects that a kind policeman will come and arrest everyone, that everything will work out without him, and he will only get up in vain... He always has a logical explanation for his inaction. After all, he didn't do anything... like that.
But is this really so? How does a person feel who has experienced indifference? It methodically kills everything alive in a person, all feelings, including hope. At the same time, it seems to have nothing to do with it. That's why it's indifference. No responsibility. No regrets. And there’s nothing to blame it for, it didn’t do anything. How convenient... how small...
They say indifference is inherited. Indifference is akin to cowardice and meanness. It will never respond to someone else's pain. He just won't hear.
Indifference is callousness and failure of the human Soul. As a rule, indifferent people do not recognize themselves as such; moreover, some of them quite seriously consider themselves romantics. Funny...
By definition, romance is feelings and emotions that elevate a person, and is “characterized by the depiction of strong passions.” To put it simply, romance is true love, devoted friendship... So indifference and romance are incompatible. One could classify those who are indifferent, on the contrary, as pragmatists. But this is also difficult. Because they are nothing, neither this nor that, neither fish nor meat, fresh and tasteless. Sometimes well-read. And they can even quite emotionally retell what they read or heard. But very soon you begin to realize that these statements contain little personal relevance and you lose interest.
Indifference is always disguised. Disguises itself as all sorts of human feelings. It deceives. And he himself believes in his own deception. And therefore it cannot be immediately recognized. And that makes it dangerous. Deception and disappointment hurt.
Indifferent people are half-humans, subhumans, standing at a lower stage of human evolution. And at their core, these are terrible people, because they lack all feelings except hunger, cold and comfort. Indifference as such is cruel. It destroys Love, kills Faith in people.
Indifference is paralysis of the Soul, premature death.
Indifference can be a manifestation of so-called alexithymia - a condition that, although not contagious, is quite intrusive and unhelpful.
People suffering from alexithymia are unable to understand and understand their own feelings and experiences, and therefore, as a result, the emotions of other people are alien to them. Compassion, empathy and empathy are alien to them. They lack intuition and imagination. The personality of such people is characterized by a primitive life orientation, infantility and, what is especially significant, a lack of reflection function, which means the inability to turn to their inner World, to their experience, the ability to comprehend their own actions and their motivation, the ability to understand what you feel and why you feel .
One of the reasons for indifference may be a lack of warmth, affection, and participation in the upbringing of the individual from early childhood. According to statistics, most indifferent people did not receive enough maternal love and attention in childhood. Often, parents, instead of asking the child about what he is feeling and experiencing, not only do not pay attention to it (in other words, remain indifferent), but also teach the child to hide his feelings. Just like that, a healthy child can develop alexithymia, which will subsequently deprive him of many human joys, including the joy of loving and being loved.
It also happens that many indifferent people often simply pretend to be so or are mentally lazy people who are perfectly aware of the situation, take care of their own feelings, but try once again not to waste their energy on another, even close, person. And this is already cruel.
And in all these connections, one cannot help but admit that indifference is worthy of pity, because the colors of life are inaccessible to indifferent people. They are not able to worry and are not able to rejoice. They are not capable of love. And that’s why no one likes them either. They are doomed to loneliness. This is a barren flower. They don't have wings... But they don't care...
Greetings to the readers of the site “Myself a Psychologist”! Question from Elena: Please tell me when resentment turns into indifference is it normal? This is better than, right? But in the soul at the same time, it’s still as if something is dying or freezing. Where does indifference come from and is it necessary to do something about it?
Good question from a caring person! :) Indeed, many people, after being offended, close their hearts, push the offense deeper into themselves, not knowing what else can be done with it, and become indifferent, and then callous people.
What is Indifference and Indifference
Indifference– loss in the heart of the value of something significant, good and truly valuable, closedness of heart.
From Wikipedia: Indifference is the state of an indifferent person, indifferent, devoid of interest, passive attitude towards the environment. A indifference This is more of an external manifestation of internal indifference.
When the heart is infected with indifference, all bright feelings, pure joy gradually die in it, and it gradually becomes stale and petrified. This is what indifference always leads to. It’s not for nothing that they say “Indifference is spiritual meanness.” And when a person’s heart becomes completely indifferent and loses sensitivity, the connection with his own Soul is destroyed, and therefore with him too. This makes him cruel and he becomes capable of evil deeds.
And it all starts with that very notorious offense, which at first seems quite harmless - “well, I’m just a little offended, there’s nothing terrible about it...”. It turns out that it still is.
If you don’t want your heart to become completely hardened, of course, you need to do something about indifference.
How to get rid of indifference?
To get rid of indifference you need to learn:
- Don’t be offended, because you are always your own biggest enemy.
- Don’t hide your resentment deep inside, but quickly throw it away, say goodbye to it. This is the ability to not hold evil within yourself for a minute.
- Reveal in yourself, appreciate what is given by Fate and God and be grateful for it.
It’s not always easy, but the game and effort are worth the candle, because a living heart filled with bright feelings makes a person happy, and a hardened, indifferent heart with suppressed accumulated grievances turns a person’s life into a complete hell during his lifetime.
So it’s up to you to choose what you fight for and what you fill your heart with!
But it often happens that it is very difficult, even impossible, to find and pull out the root of indifference, especially if the Soul hurts greatly. Then the best thing is to turn to a good person for help, who can determine the root cause of the mental splinter and pull it out. If you need a Healer's contact for work - .
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Indifferent attitude... Indifference... What is it? Where does it come from in people? And if indifference is a diagnosis, then how to treat it?
Lately, indifference has become a common word. We often hear about him on television and radio. It's in the air on the street. Everyone is afraid of him, and when they encounter him, they don’t recognize him.
Because indifference is not a hefty guy with a bloody ax in his hands and not a suicide bomber with an explosive on his belt, but a little gray man who sits in a corner and quietly reads the newspaper while the guy and the suicide bomber are operating. He sits and hopes that he won’t be noticed, he expects that a kind policeman will come and arrest everyone, that everything will work out without him, but he will only get up in vain... He always has a logical explanation for his inaction. After all, he didn't do anything... like that.
But is this really so? How does a person feel who has experienced indifference? It methodically kills everything alive in a person, all feelings, including hope. At the same time, it seems to have nothing to do with it. That's why it's indifference. No responsibility. No regrets. And there’s nothing to blame it for, it didn’t do anything. How convenient... how small...
They say indifference is inherited. Indifference is akin to cowardice and meanness. It will never respond to someone else's pain. He just won't hear.
Indifference is the callousness and failure of the human soul. As a rule, indifferent people do not recognize themselves as such; moreover, some of them quite seriously consider themselves romantics. Funny... By definition, romance is feelings and emotions that elevate a person, it is “characterized by the depiction of strong passions.” To put it simply, romance is true love, devoted friendship... So indifference and romance are incompatible.
I would rather classify those who are indifferent, on the contrary, as pragmatists. But this is also difficult. Because they are nothing, neither this nor that, neither fish nor meat, fresh and tasteless. Sometimes well-read. And they can even quite emotionally retell what they read or heard. But very soon you begin to realize that these statements contain little personal relevance, and you lose interest.
Indifference is always disguised. Disguises itself as all sorts of human feelings. It deceives. And he himself believes in his own deception. And therefore it cannot be immediately recognized. And that makes it dangerous. Deception and disappointment hurt.
Indifferent people are half-humans, subhumans, standing at a lower stage of human evolution. And at their core, these are terrible people, because they lack all feelings except hunger, cold and comfort. Indifference as such is cruel. It destroys love, kills faith in people.
Bruno Jasieński (1901-1938), a wonderful Polish and Russian writer who was executed in 1938, wrote very correct words in his novel “Conspiracy of the Indifferent”:
“Do not be afraid of your friends - in the worst case, they can betray you, do not be afraid of your enemies - in the worst case, they can kill you, be afraid of the indifferent - only with their tacit consent do betrayals and murders occur on Earth.”
A.P. spoke no less eloquently on this matter. Chekhov: “Indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death.”
However, all of the above is lyrics, emotions. Some people might take it personally and be outraged, which is not a bad thing. And if he analyzes it, then it’s very good.
Because our coin also has a flip side. And on the other side, indifference no longer seems such a vice. Indifference may be a manifestation of the so-called alexithymia- the condition, although not contagious, is quite intrusive and unhelpful.
People suffering from alexithymia are unable to understand and understand their own feelings and experiences, and therefore, as a result, the emotions of other people are alien to them. Compassion is alien to them, empathy is alien to them and pity is alien to them. They lack intuition and imagination. The personality of such people, to quote psychology, “is characterized by the primitiveness of life orientation, infantilism and, what is especially significant, the insufficiency of the function of reflection.”
For reference. Reflection is an appeal to your inner world, to your experience, the ability to comprehend your own actions and their motivation, the ability to understand what you feel and why you feel.
The term alexithymia is further clarified: “The combination of these qualities leads to excessive pragmatism, the impossibility of a holistic view of one’s own life, a lack of creative attitude towards it, as well as difficulties and conflicts in interpersonal relationships.»
Does this remind you of anything?
The origin of alexithymia varies. This phenomenon may be congenital. As, for example, a stable quality of a person’s personality. Or it may have an acquired, i.e. temporary, character. An example is a post-traumatic reaction, a condition resulting from experienced stress, long-term depression, as a protective reaction of the body to aggression from the outside world.
One of the reasons may be a lack of warmth, affection, and participation in the upbringing of the individual from early childhood. According to statistics, most indifferent people did not receive enough maternal love and attention in childhood. Often, parents, instead of asking the child about what he is feeling and experiencing, not only do not pay attention to it (in other words, remain indifferent), but also teach the child to hide his feelings. Just like that, a healthy child can develop alexithymia, which will subsequently deprive him of many human joys, including the joy of loving and being loved.
Of course, I have not mentioned all the symptoms and manifestations of alexithymia, especially since its severity can vary. Some see it as a disease, a mental disorder, while others see it as a certain psychological make-up of a person’s personality. But the purpose of this article is not alexithymia, as such, but the essence of human indifference...
In this regard, I would like to note that not every indifferent person is affected by alexithymia. Many indifferent people simply pretend to be so or are mentally lazy people who are perfectly aware of the situation, take care of their own feelings, but try not to waste their energy on another person, even a close one. And this is already cruel.
It helps to check for true indifference, or alexithymia. Toronto Alexithymic Scale (TAS)– a special test consisting of 26 points. Anyone interested can easily find it online.
As for the treatment of indifference, there is nothing comforting here. Scientists unanimously say that indifference cannot be cured. True, some optimists advise using empathy.
And in this regard, one cannot help but admit that indifference is worthy of pity, because the colors of life are inaccessible to indifferent people. They are not able to worry and are not able to rejoice. They are not capable of love. And that’s why no one likes them either. They are doomed to loneliness. This is a barren flower. They don't have wings...
But they don't care...
compassion mercy indifference pragmatism
Indifferent attitude... Indifference... What is it? Where does it come from in people? And if indifference is a diagnosis, then how to treat it?
Lately, indifference has become a common word. We often hear about him on television and radio. It's in the air on the street. Everyone is afraid of him, and when they encounter him, they don’t recognize him.
Because indifference is not a hefty guy with a bloody ax in his hands and not a suicide bomber with an explosive on his belt, but a little gray man who sits in a corner and quietly reads the newspaper while the guy and the suicide bomber are operating. He sits and hopes that he won’t be noticed, he expects that a kind policeman will come and arrest everyone, that everything will work out without him, but he will only get up in vain... He always has a logical explanation for his inaction. After all, he didn't do anything... like that.
But is this really so? How does a person feel who has experienced indifference? It methodically kills everything alive in a person, all feelings, including hope. At the same time, it seems to have nothing to do with it. That's why it's indifference. No responsibility. No regrets. And there’s nothing to blame it for, it didn’t do anything. How convenient... how small...
They say indifference is inherited. Indifference is akin to cowardice and meanness. It will never respond to someone else's pain. He just won't hear.
Indifference is the callousness and failure of the human soul. As a rule, indifferent people do not recognize themselves as such; moreover, some of them quite seriously consider themselves romantics. Funny... By definition, romance is feelings and emotions that elevate a person, it is “characterized by the depiction of strong passions.” To put it simply, romance is true love, devoted friendship... So indifference and romance are incompatible.
I would rather classify those who are indifferent, on the contrary, as pragmatists. But this is also difficult. Because they are nothing, neither this nor that, neither fish nor meat, fresh and tasteless. Sometimes well-read. And they can even quite emotionally retell what they read or heard. But very soon you begin to realize that these statements contain little personal relevance, and you lose interest.
Indifference is always disguised. Disguises itself as all sorts of human feelings. It deceives. And he himself believes in his own deception. And therefore it cannot be immediately recognized. And that makes it dangerous. Deception and disappointment hurt.
Indifferent people are half-humans, subhumans, standing at a lower stage of human evolution. And at their core, these are terrible people, because they lack all feelings except hunger, cold and comfort. Indifference as such is cruel. It destroys love, kills faith in people.
Indifference is a state of a person in which he does not show the slightest interest in anything. Synonyms: apathy, indifference, callousness, insensitivity, heartlessness, indifference, dispassion, indifference, passivity, callousness.
People often call indifference neutrality to make it sound more decent. However, this does not change the meaning of indifference. Indifference remains indifference.
The world through the eyes of the indifferent:
- - My hut is on the edge, I don’t know anything.
- - Your shirt is closer to your body.
- - After us - even a flood.
- - Our business is the side.
- - At least the grass won't grow.
- - I don’t delve into anything, such a difficult role for me!
I listen with half an ear. This is indifference.
Indifference is indifference. When is a person indifferent to something? In the case when it is not important to him or worthy of his attention. What could be the roots of indifference?
- -- Pride;
- - Selfishness;
- - Love of money;
- - Careerism.
Bruno Yasensky (1901-1938), a wonderful Polish and Russian writer, executed in 1938, wrote very correct words in his novel “Conspiracy of the Indifferent”: “Do not be afraid of your friends - in the worst case, they can betray you, do not be afraid of your enemies - in the worst case, they can kill you, be afraid of the indifferent - only with their tacit consent do betrayals and murders occur on Earth.”
A.P. spoke no less eloquently on this matter. Chekhov: “Indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death.”
However, all of the above is lyrics, emotions. Some people might take it personally and be outraged, which is not a bad thing. And if he analyzes it, then it’s very good.
Because our coin also has a flip side. And on the other side, indifference no longer seems such a vice. Indifference can be a manifestation of so-called alexithymia - a condition that, although not contagious, is quite intrusive and unhelpful.
People suffering from alexithymia are unable to understand and understand their own feelings and experiences, and therefore, as a result, the emotions of other people are alien to them. Compassion is alien to them, empathy is alien to them and pity is alien to them. They lack intuition and imagination. The personality of such people, to quote psychology, “is characterized by the primitiveness of life orientation, infantilism and, what is especially significant, the insufficiency of the function of reflection.”
For reference. Reflection is an appeal to your inner world, to your experience, the ability to comprehend your own actions and their motivation, the ability to understand what you feel and why you feel.
The term alexithymia is further clarified: “The combination of the listed qualities leads to excessive pragmatism, the impossibility of a holistic view of one’s own life, a lack of creative attitude towards it, as well as difficulties and conflicts in interpersonal relationships. This is a state when a person is unable to see his whole life in one, as well as problems in communicating with other people
The origin of alexithymia varies. This phenomenon may be congenital. As, for example, a stable quality of a person’s personality. Or it may have an acquired, i.e. temporary, character. An example is a post-traumatic reaction, a condition resulting from experienced stress, long-term depression, as a protective reaction of the body to aggression from the outside world.
One of the reasons may be a lack of warmth, affection, and participation in the upbringing of the individual from early childhood. According to statistics, most indifferent people did not receive enough maternal love and attention in childhood. Often, parents, instead of asking the child about what he is feeling and experiencing, not only do not pay attention to it (in other words, remain indifferent), but also teach the child to hide his feelings. Just like that, a healthy child can develop alexithymia, which will subsequently deprive him of many human joys, including the joy of loving and being loved.
Of course, I have not mentioned all the symptoms and manifestations of alexithymia, especially since its severity can vary. Some see it as a disease, a mental disorder, while others see it as a certain psychological make-up of a person’s personality. But the purpose of this article is not alexithymia, as such, but the essence of human indifference...
In this regard, I would like to note that not every indifferent person is affected by alexithymia. Many indifferent people simply pretend to be so or are mentally lazy people who are perfectly aware of the situation, take care of their own feelings, but try not to waste their energy on another person, even a close one. And this is already cruel.
The Toronto Alexithymic Scale (TAS), a special test consisting of 26 items, helps to check for the presence of true indifference, or alexithymia. Anyone interested can easily find it online.
As for the treatment of indifference, there is nothing comforting here. Scientists unanimously say that indifference cannot be cured. True, some optimists advise using empathy.
And in this regard, one cannot help but admit that indifference is worthy of pity, because the colors of life are inaccessible to indifferent people. They are not able to worry and are not able to rejoice. They are not capable of love. And that’s why no one likes them either. They are doomed to loneliness. This is a barren flower. They don't have wings...
Ask anyone if they are an indifferent person?
Yes you?! How is it possible?! Yes, I am ready to give my soul for my neighbor! When I was a child, I translated old ladies across the street! And thousands more examples of how he gave up his turn to a pensioner, or helped his neighbor drive a nail into the wall. How nice it is to feel like a noble and caring person!
Indifference, if you think about it, has a double meaning. Indifference as EQUAL, the same attitude towards “all souls”, that is, towards all people without distinction into races, nationalities and other differences that “set people apart”, and Indifference as poise, balance, the strength of the soul, which no one and nothing can deduce from balance, harmony.
So what's wrong with that? Why are most sayings about indifference negative? After all, they can be interpreted in a diametrically opposite sense. Which is much closer to our current existence.
In America, the principle of relationship (and now in our country) is reflected in one, most capacious expression: “These are your problems!” Accordingly, “These are NOT my problems!”
Everyone copes with their problems on their own, without burdening others with them. To the question “How are you?” here they don’t start talking long and tediously about problems, but answer briefly and as deceitfully as possible: “Fine!” Wonderful!
Even if you lost your job yesterday, your car was broken into, and a member of a “racial minority” robbed your wife. Fine! Everything else is my problem. Because YOU, who asked how MY was doing, have your own problems.
I don’t know how to help myself, much less how to help you. Therefore, many suggest that indifference is considered a disease that appeared in society out of despair. It is so easy and so convenient to consider a normal state as abnormal, “sick”. This is so uplifting! It is enough to “recover from indifference,” and immediately: “Man is a friend, comrade, and in some places even brother to man!”
Indifference is not a disease, it is rather a defense!
Protection from breaking, from exploding, from starting to destroy everyone and everything indiscriminately...
To be responsive and caring is too great an unaffordable luxury in our cruel times. React emotionally to everything that happens around you?
Too strong emotions will immediately begin to destroy us. Therefore, we retreat into indifference, into forgetfulness - just so as not to react and not freak out in vain... Especially if you feel and understand that you still can’t change anything.